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Two Cents Tuesdays and Thursdays
It’s all about the boundaries
Today is Tuesday. Tuesday is therapy day and the first day of the week that my mom can “lecture” me. Thursday is the other day of the week my mom can tell me what I should do. I call this “Two Cents Tuesdays and Thursdays.”
One of the issues I’ve had throughout my life is setting boundaries. Boundaries are so hard! Especially for people-pleasers! Like I want to do things for everyone, and feel guilty if I have to say “no.” I don’t feel like I can say “no” unless I have a good reason for doing such.
When you go from having no boundaries to setting boundaries, all of those people who have taken advantage of you start having problems with you. All of a sudden, you are a bitch, or you are being difficult. Because you will no longer let others take advantage of your giving nature and suck your energy. Or because you will no longer do everything that they want you to do.
Boundaries are one of the things that I am continually working on during my therapy sessions. One of the hardest things to do with boundary setting is learning and normalizing the language that helps to establish them. This podcast was one that I felt was so incredibly helpful with learning some of the most effective language to use to:
